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English: A male submissive tied up and humiliated by three women at Exxxotica 2009 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

As humiliation seems to be a popular fetish from a guy’s point of view, we asked many “slaves” some questions in the hope that it may convey exactly how it feels for them to be humiliated and the fantasy and thrill that they get from this.  We have picked the best two and hopefully the answers provided will formulate an interesting and engaging Blog post that may help others who perhaps may want to understand or may be looking to get into what these men do and enjoy themselves.  There must be many people who may be unwilling to divulge their urges and inner fantasies and have latent desires waiting to come out. These men have acted on their desires and are living the fantasy; but is reality better than the fantasy? We will let you decide, here are their answers.

The men share share their side’s of the story.

Interview with :@PTspuppypenny

What makes people get into this humiliation fantasy do you think?

I think that the feelings of inadequacy and submissiveness go hand in hand with humiliation. Humiliation isn’t in my opinion a far cry from emasculation, and personally, I see the idea of being someones submissive a lot to do with emasculation, I think the want or need to be humiliated stems from that.

How did you personally get into this fantasy? How did it evolve? Tell us your journey.

I wasn’t personally a huge fan of humiliation. After meeting my Princess Torrii, we engaged in “Puppy Play“. After being given a puppy name, and being made to beg, seeing how delighted it made her it sort of made me, emasculated, yes, humiliated, very, but I was willing to endure it for her amusement.

What I get out of being humiliated’ is more, a sense of purpose knowing she’s happy.

Does the urge for humiliation get stronger after the first time?

Personally for me, no, but I do enjoy it more than I used too.

Would you say that you are naturally a submissive type of person?

Not in the slightest, in my “vanilla” life I’m extremely dominant, I tend to take charge of most relationships, friendly or personal, and I have a manual, manly job. I find being a submissive and devoting myself to someone else an escape as much as I do it for pleasure.

How is your humiliation conducted?

Usually by a very very long and drawn out grovelling session, begging, embarrassing pictures she requests, anything that will amuse her and degrade me I see as humiliation.

What’s the thrill and satisfaction for you?

As I stated earlier, the thrill and satisfaction in humiliation for me, is knowing I’m being emasculated and humiliated for my owner Princess Torrii’s amusement and own personal gratification. She loves me groveling because she feels adored.

Tell us a bit about current or favourite Domme if you have one?

My domme is Princess Torrii, she classes herself not as a domme but a cash princess. She can be strict, cruel, calculated, dominant, but also sweet, funny, charming, incredibly thoughtful and has intelligence and beauty in total spades. She’s a joy to serve and I love doing it, and hopefully will be able too for many weeks, months, if I’m so lucky, years to come.

What is it she does that you enjoy most?

I love the fact we can have chats about her likes and dislikes, she lets me get away with a little tiny amount of cheek sometimes, but then the moment I’m getting unruly or too cheeky, she can very lovingly and affectionately, yet firmly steer me back to my hands and knees with a “now now puppy”

If your Domme asked you to put a label on yourself what would it be?

Princess Torrii’s Puppy Penny.

What type of verbal humiliation do you enjoy most?

Anything involving Puppy Play or sissification.

Do you know your place with your Domme? What would sorts of thing would she do to put you back in your place if you ever step out of line?

I try to as best I can but sometimes no. If I step out of line I will be verbally scolded as a bad puppy, and made to beg, grovel, tribute, and apologize until she thought I’d learned my lesson. Puppy Training.

Explain what your weakness towards your Domme does for you?

I love knowing she’s superior, I’m a handful to take on, most dommes wouldn’t, because I’m not naturally submissive, but I have such a weak spot for her, it’s a thrill being sort out ‘out played’ and ‘out witted’ just by her smile and a few witty intelligent words and a command. It’s a total rush serving her.

How would you describe your relationship with your Domme?

Excellent, one of a kind and a long term arrangement. I feel any relationship, girlfriend, friend, or ~D/S is something you need to click with like anything else. She and I just happened to click, and after we clicked, she clicked the collar round my neck. I’ve been happy since.

Some people outside the scene would not understand the thrill of a dominatrix making fun of you or humiliating you as a fantasy? Is it because other stuff arouses them in different ways and is quite boring to you perhaps?

I wouldn’t say so. I’m like any other guy, I do really really enjoy my sex. Up until very recently, I was juggling both an active sex life, and serving my princess. It so happens she’s now said no sex until she decides, boo-hoo for me. But I think the thrill for everyone comes from different things to that specific person. I’d urge anyone outside the scene to be open minded about everything BDSM related, and give it a go. Who knows?

Does/would sexual humiliation, make you feel less of a man? Whets the thrill there?

I think a lot of our relationship is in some way emasculating. The thrill for me is again, knowing my owner takes pleasure out of the fact she’s getting someone usually manly and alpha male-ish under her control and having him emasculate himself for her. I think it’s as much a thrill for her as me.

For how long did you have the humiliation urges before you acted on them?

I didn’t. I got my domme, and it sprouted from that. I’ve not looked back.

Do you feel any regret, guilt or other feelings having got into this lifestyle?

I don’t, my bank account does, financial domination is an edge very few will enjoy but, with that much emphasis placed on money = power nowadays, I find it the ultimate power exchange.

Is there anything else you would like to say?

Thank you for taking the time to read this, I hope it’s got something you can use, and I would like any credit to go to my beautiful owner Princess Torrii

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Interview with  @Kiras_slave

I hope I could give interesting answers to most of the questions. As you will notice probably, English isn’t my mother language. I hope everything is understandable. I’d love to get your feedback. If you have other questions or want me to develop some point just tell me.

With devotion

Slave d

Can you please tell us what type of humiliation fantasy you enjoy?

I think it’s important to make a distinction between online and “live” or “real” games. I do both, but I present myself a bit differently live or online.

Online: I like to get degrading orders which involves most of the time dirty components. I like bizarre games following the motto “how far would I go for my Mistress”. It can involve anal play, food play, or even toilet games. I can do this online, because if it goes too far, it’s easier to stop it. I also enjoy very much taking pictures of myself, where I look very submissive or humiliated. I like those pictures to have some “esthetic” quality and to expose them on specific sites.

Live: I enjoy tremendously the beginning of a session, to kneel in front of my Mistress, to get naked, to greet her on my knees, kissing or licking her shoes. Then I also enjoy obeying every order, but it doesn’t have to be as humiliating as online. I like for example to clean her flat, to serve her in small things, just being treated like a slave, naked, collared… Sometimes though, I also like to do very degrading things to prove my devotion: so I already cleaned my Mistress toilets with my tongue, or serve as a toilet myself. For that it has to be a very special and intimate relation with the Mistress.

Online I could serve nearly every Mistress spontaneously, live I can only serve one special Mistress, with whom I have a special relationship which has to get built up. In both case it’s also a pleasure to get some compliments for accomplishing a task. The crazier the task accomplished the sweeter the compliments…

What makes people get into this humiliation fantasy do you think?

Hard to say, maybe the pleasure to give the lead to someone else, to lose control, the thrill of the question “what will come next?” or “how far can it go”? As I wrote before, the compliments from a Mistress to a slave accomplishing a test is like a reward, a recognition, which makes want to go further…

How did you personally get into this fantasy? How did it evolve? Tell us your journey.

I started to have submission fantasies as a teenager. I was shy and had little self-esteem. Probably I’m still like that deeply inside, even though I also have a normal life, where I’m doing quite well personally professionally, even sentimentally…

Does the urge for humiliation get stronger after the first time?

It developed itself slowly, because at the beginning I felt kind of guilty. It took time and yes, it did get stronger by the time

Would you say that you are naturally a submissive type of person?

Yes, even though as I say, I also live a normal life, where I can look for my interests

Tell us a bit about current or favourite Domme if you have one?

A beautiful Mistress about 30 with Thai origins, but who grew up in the city where I live. She is a mix of sensuality, charm, dominance and weird or nasty fantasies. I’ve been serving her real for about 8 years now, with pauses as I can’t afford my fantasies all the time

What is it she does that you enjoy most?

Using me as a toilet, making me clean her city-shoes,

If your Domme asked you to put a label on yourself what would it be?

Just: HER slave

What type of verbal humiliation do you enjoy most?

I like to be called slave or to be reminded how low I am. But I don’t like vulgarity.

Tell us about some online humiliation experience that you enjoyed.

I was once online the whole night on yahoo messenger; I had to be naked, collared and have a status line telling Mistresses to “buzz” me for their pleasure. It happened a few times and I had to creep half sleepy in front of the cam to get laughed at. Otherwise many dirty games where I had to stuff my ass with food, and even eat it…

Do you know your place with your Domme? What would sorts of thing would she do to put you back in your place if you ever step out of line?

She would ignore me for a while…

How would you describe your relationship with your Domme?

I surely feel some affection for her as a person. I surely felt a bit in love with her at some point. She probably likes me as well, but but not as I did. So I learned to separate my sub life from my normal life. Now I consider her like a Goddess, I have to worship and serve.

Some people outside the scene would not understand the thrill of a dominatrix making fun of you or humiliating you as a fantasy? Is it because other stuff arouses them in different ways and is quite boring to you perhaps?

Very possible, I always found classical porn films boring. Even normal sex is not what I enjoy most. By a woman I fantasize more about her feet and legs than about her tit.

Does/would sexual humiliation, make you feel less of a man? Whats the thrill there?

No, I still feel like a man, even quite a normal one

For how long did you have the humiliation urges before you acted on them?

I can’t say as it is an evolutive process

Do you feel any regret, guilt or other feelings having got into this lifestyle?

I did, but now I don’t… at least not because of humiliation, I do when I spend too much money on that

Is there anything else you would like to say?

I am no money slave, I would enjoy the same fantasies if I could do it for free, but a positive thing with having to pay is that it gives a limit…

 

We hope that the answers give an insight into the somewhat taboo or as Princes Torrii puts its so well, the “cat and mouse game” of  humiliation fetish.

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